A practical home and school support toolkit designed to help adults better understand anxiety, overwhelm and Emotionally Based School Avoidance (EBSA) while building calmer, more supportive approaches around the child.

This resource has been created for:

schools
parents
carers
SENCOs
pastoral staff
mentors
wellbeing teams

to work together in a calmer, more joined-up and supportive way.

Unlike many anxiety resources that focus only on the child, this toolkit helps adults:
✔ recognise patterns
✔ reduce pressure
✔ improve communication
✔ understand overwhelm
✔ identify triggers
✔ support emotional safety
✔ create practical support plans
✔ build consistency between home and school

WHAT MAKES THIS RESOURCE DIFFERENT

This toolkit focuses on:

understanding before reacting.

It recognises that:

anxious children may struggle to explain what is wrong
overwhelm can look different at home and at school
shutdown, panic and avoidance are often protective responses
small adjustments and calmer communication can make a significant difference

The tone throughout is:

calm
non-judgemental
practical
emotionally supportive

making it suitable for sensitive situations and emotionally overwhelmed children.

INCLUDED TOOLS & SUPPORT MATERIALS

This toolkit includes practical resources such as:

Anxiety & panic trackers
Anxiety pattern calendars
Trigger identification tools
Recovery time trackers
Communication support prompts
Low-pressure support ideas
School anxiety support planners
Home-school communication sheets
Sensory overload checklists
Reintegration planners
Calm options planning tools
Reflection and observation pages

Example pages include:

Understanding Overwhelm
When a Child Cannot Talk
Safe Communication Prompts
What Helps / What Makes Things Harder
School Anxiety Support Planner
What Adults Need To Know About Me
Small Steps Reintegration Planner
After-School Decompression Ideas
HOW THIS RESOURCE FITS WITH THE CALM CODE SERIES

This toolkit works especially well alongside:

Calm Code Book 1: Understanding Anxiety & Finding Calm
Calm Code Book 2: Working With Worry & Thoughts
Calm Code Book 3: Confidence, Emotional Safety & Growth
Teen Calm Code Workbook

However, it can also be used completely independently as a:

parent-school support and communication toolkit.
IDEAL FOR

✔ EBSA support
✔ Anxiety & overwhelm
✔ Pastoral support
✔ SEN / SEMH support
✔ Reintegration planning
✔ Emotional regulation support
✔ Home-school communication
✔ Nurture & wellbeing interventions

RESOURCE FORMAT
Printable PDF toolkit
Practical worksheets and planning tools
Suitable for school or home use
Flexible for individual children and support teams

This resource has been created to help adults and children:
work together more calmly, reduce overwhelm and better understand what the child may be experiencing.